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Info on stress, trauma, and stress clearing
When I speak of stress, I'm referring to emotional stress. Stress takes place when conflict occurs in the mind. The person and things in the world are at odds with each other. Often these stressful moments become null and void simply by continuing to live life. What tends to become fixed in one's psyche is the stresses that are of a more severe nature than normal. These are called traumas. In stress clearing, what we are concerned with is mainly the lasting effects of traumas.
A trauma is the energy recording in the mind of a moment in time, called a traumatic event, where a person has received a sudden physical or emotional blow that he was not able or willing to completely tolerate or assimilate. Because of this, it becomes buried in the mind where the contents can later act as a post-hypnotic suggestion and cause unwanted effects to the person. A trauma could be roughly compared to a foreign object to the body, like a piece of shrapnel, a parasite, or a virus, where the body cannot assimilate it, but may accommodate its presence indefinitely. A trauma could also be properly called a toxic memory.
Examples of extreme traumas include auto and other accidents; sports injuries; loss of a loved one or a favorite pet through death or departure; loss of one's job or occupation; public humiliation; divorce; loss of home or other possessions, violent experiences such as war; child abuse, whether physical, emotional or sexual; muggings, rapes, armed robberies, and other violent crimes. Lighter incidents that can still qualify as traumas include moments of embarrassment, rejection, shame, regret, self doubt, and other moments of emotional upset. I refer to these as mini-traumas. They may be much less traumatic, but they usually occur far more frequently. At times these "mini-traumas" may also turn out to be at least as significant as the more obvious traumas. Some events such as a "mid-life crisis" may fall somewhere in between. Each case is individual as to his response to the environment.
But traumas (including mini-traumas) are not restricted to things done to one by others. Chronic feelings of guilt, for instance, can result from being a cause of others' suffering, whether witting or unwitting, like accidentally hitting and injuring a pedestrian, or as a child, being a financial burden to one's parents. Others causing others or themselves stress can also be traumatic Chronic feelings of insecurity can result from such things as parents fighting during childhood. And lastly, we can cause ourselves stress. Recurring symptoms of illness can stem from such things as one's own desire for illness during one's school years as a means to escape the classroom. So traumas can also be caused by doing things to others, others doing things to others or themselves, and one doing things to oneself. In addition, one can be traumatized by failing to do what one feels he should have, such as reconcile differences with a now-departed loved one.
A trauma starts when an event happens too rapidly for the person experiencing it to easily assimilate. The entire event still gets recorded on a certain part of the memory banks often referred to as the subconscious mind. Along with the pain is contained all the perceptions of the traumatic event. Because of this association between the pain and those perceptions, just the re-experiencing of those perceptions, later on in life, can bring on feelings of similar pain and/or painful emotions along with it. This is actually a primitive defense mechanism of bodies that is intended to teach them not to go near the source of past pain as it may mean death. In modern society, however, this kind of knee-jerk reaction mechanism that may have had survival value during evolutionary periods of the body, not only is not useful, since human intelligence is a more than adequate replacement, it can pose major problems to the person. A person is ALWAYS better off without these trigger mechanisms and can handle situations far better with intelligent judgment than with reactive responses. What's more, reaction time to emergencies is not reduced in the slightest by removing traumas. A person can always instantaneously remove his hand from a hot stove, for instance, whether he has had a trauma connected with it or not. But with the trauma removed from his subconscious mind, the person, while still having a healthy respect for stoves, will not be irrationally afraid of stoves in general. Automatic learned habit patterns such as piano playing or car driving are not the result of traumas and therefore are not subject to being erased.
In essence, stress clearing is a systematic way of uncovering and releasing the pain and hidden suggestions buried in the subconscious part of the mind, thus restoring to the person the freedoms the trauma took away by imposing restrictions on his behavior.
Emotional effects can include anxiety, painful memories, hopelessness, dependencies, fixed attitudes, stress, worries, repressions, hostilities, fears, tension, emotional hurt, compulsions, depression, inabilities, sadness, regret, guilt, and a myriad of other conditions. This can also have an effect on relationships and on how one relates to other people.
Physical effects can include chronic fatigue, amnesia, heart problems, arthritis, cancer, diabetes, and many other chronic ailments. Have you ever heard of a person going downhill physically after the sudden departure of a loved one takes place?
Stress clearing itself does not cure any of these conditions, nor does it replace necessary medical treatment. But the natural direction of a human being is toward health and sanity. What stress clearing does is to remove the obstructions that might stand in the way of the body and mind healing itself of the effects of toxic memories, and subsequently experiencing recovery.
In any case, unresolved traumas add up to dead weight a person carries around in his mind, and even if he forgets about them, they will still be there as a drag on life in one capacity or another. After a person is used to carrying this weight, releasing it will make that person feel instantly lighter and freer.
Emotional stress is normally brought on by mini-traumas. It is well known that there is a connection between stress and such ailments as ulcers, heart problems, high blood pressure. Those are the obvious examples, but there are many others. One figure estimates that 70% of physical ailments are psychosomatic in origin.
The usual, readily observable pattern is this: emotional stress causing negative emotional feelings → prolonged emotional stress leading to repeated or lasting negative emotional feelings (moodiness) → long-term emotional stress leading to physical deterioration such as chronic pains, illness and disease.
The best approach is to take advantage of stress clearing during periods prior to where physical deterioration begins to take its toll.
Stress on relationships, whether personal or business, should not be allowed to progress to the point where they negatively affect one's emotional or physical health. Stress clearing provides the necessary emotional cleansing to keep one's mental/emotional slate clean and one's life focused on the positives.
Stress clearing is a set of techniques for neutralizing the emotionally and physically painful effects of traumas. It is based largely on the idea of regression therapy, but with no need at all for hypnosis as a means of approaching or resolving the trauma. In fact, hypnosis is a questionable method for dealing with past traumas since the person in a trance is not fully in control of his faculties. The modern method of non-hypnotic style (fully awake) regression is easy, safe, and highly effective in resolving traumatic experiences of various types.
Stress clearing can be done entirely in a session environment. One needn't, for instance, return to a war zone in order to eradicate haunting memories of war. Similarly, a mugging victim needn't directly confront his or her attacker in order to neutralize the trauma of the attack. Nor does one need to apologize to someone one has acted "wrongfully" towards.
Stress clearing works by using the safe and natural method of simply reversing the process by which one receives the trauma. There seems to be a general but erroneous agreement that while a traumatic memory can be brought about which can thereafter persist and adversely affect one's life, its creation cannot be consciously reversed. By what rule of logic is this true? Admittedly, receiving a trauma is simpler than neutralizing one, since the former can be done haphazardly while the latter must be done deliberately and in the correct way. However, now that the methods have been pioneered by which traumas can successfully be neutralized, there is no longer any reason to continue to suffer as a result of them, or have to "learn to live with them". No longer does one have to concede to a trauma, thinking "I have to live with the pain of this memory every day, and I'll have to do so for the rest of my life". To think that true advances can only occur in the material realm (like computer technology, for instance) and not in the humanistic realm like the field of the mind is folly.
The processee* is carefully guided and directed as to which traumatic areas of the past to address, and exactly how to address them so that they are normalized and become memories just like any other memory. If a trauma is composed of too much event occurring in too short a span of time, then the obvious solution would be to "stretch out" the memory of the event so that it can finally be assimilated just like any other memory. Accomplishing this takes the skills of an experienced practitioner with knowledge and training in the handling of traumatic experiences. The results are often seen as "miraculous".
Another way of viewing stress clearing is to see it as focused meditation. In doing meditation, one allows random thoughts to simply pass through without resisting them, and thus they eventually vanish from lack of resistance to them, since it's the resistance to the traumatic event that causes it to persist in the psyche. Think of this as meditation focused on one particular area that needs addressing. One could call this assisted, selective meditation.
*processee: (definition) The one receiving the process of stress clearing, or processing. Processee is a term used in lieu of patient in order to distinguish someone who is normal but bettering himself from someone who is physically or mentally ill. A practitioner of stress clearing is also referred to as a processor or facilitator.
Processing over the telephone is the modern application of counseling. One might be prone to conclude that the results of counseling by phone would be inferior to face-to-face for one reason or another. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. With phone counseling:
• there is no need for concern regarding transportation or distance.
• one can get processing from virtually anywhere in the country or even in the world.
• one can get processing even while on vacation at a remote location.
• transportation and waiting time is saved.
• transportation and lodging expenses are eliminated.
• scheduled appointments can be more easily met.
• one can receive stress clearing while relaxing in one's favorite recliner, in familiar surroundings.
• the processee can express his or her feelings and emotions liberally without feeling self conscious about it.
Of course, as always, the practitioner never evaluates for nor invalidates the processee.
Moreover, under most circumstances, facilitation by phone is every bit as effective as otherwise, without the inconveniences.
Stress clearing is part of a relatively new form of counseling called clearing. Processing is the application of clearing techniques. Processing could come under the general heading of counseling but it is a specialized kind of counseling where the processor (practitioner, facilitator) does not "psychoanalyze" the processee (client) or tell him what or how he should think, but rather guides him toward finding his own answers that are real to him. It has been found that to evaluate for the processee will tend to cause a dampening effect on his own cognitive abilities. One major secret to the success of stress clearing is the fact of allowing the processee to cognize about his case without evaluation by the processor, thus increasing his sense of self determination and his true understanding of himself. In fact, stress clearing could be called assisted self-realization.
With stress clearing, the goal is not for the processee to gain the ability to be able to live with his toxic memories, nor is it to get the processee to "forgive" someone or "let go of" something, only to have the memory, along with its unwanted feelings, creep back at a later date. Burying the trauma is not the answer either. The goal of stress clearing is to totally eradicate the unwanted effects of traumas by transmuting the trauma into the standard memory it should have been all along. This is a fairly new direction for counseling.
Stress clearing sessions are based on resolution rather than time, as is the usual fifty-minute-appointment counseling. A stress clearing session typically lasts anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours, but the average time is about 1 hour. Every session ends on a positive, uplifting note. The session always ends with the processee feeling more free and enlightened than when he started, and with the trauma, and often the accompanying unwanted condition, resolved.
Stress clearing sessions do not meander aimlessly, but focus directly on the resolution of the trauma(s) that may be behind a condition.
Stress clearing sessions are so standard and predictable in their results that payment is not expected to be made until after the session is complete. If the processee is dissatisfied with the results for some reason, or feels he or she was not helped by the session, payment will not be asked nor expected of him.
How many people do not have some personal issues to deal with? Fifty percent of marriages end with divorce. Everybody runs across trials and tribulations in life. Some are more able to hide them than others, but we all have or have had them.
So most people could use someone, every now and then, to listen to their intimate problems. However, the average person is not qualified to listen dispassionately, understand, and point one in the correct direction that will allow him to resolve his own or another's situation. The processee must place his trust in the person he is confiding in. This cannot be done with just anybody without risking negative repercussions. And those who are trustworthy enough to confide in are seldom trained in how to resolve the situations presented, though admittedly, simply listening to another can often be of great benefit and is highly encouraged.
Stress clearing practitioners are trained on how to listen effectively, remain neutral in attitude, and direct the processee in a direction that will be most beneficial to him, all the while not interfering with the processee's self-determination and his process of self-realization. Getting emotionally involved, lecturing to, forming conclusions about the client, expressing conclusions thus stifling the client's own independent conclusions, making him wrong for what he says, and arguing with him, all take away from the effectiveness of the process of stress clearing. Furthermore, strict confidentiality is of the utmost importance. To violate this would be to undermine the benefits of processing as well as the credibility of the practitioner. Many ingredients go into effective stress counseling, and many years of trial and error have gone into developing the correct procedures and rules for optimum processing so that the person who would receive stress counseling can get a truly professional product for his money.
Stress clearing is for the normal and able person who wants to better his condition by clearing the stumbling blocks that may be in his road to a happy and successful life, or whose job or environment can be emotionally stressful and wants a means to better cope with that stress. That would include the policeman, the business executive, the salesman, the student - especially during teen years, the psychotherapist, the athlete, the social worker, the housewife, the lawyer, the surgeon, the teacher, the air traffic controller, and many other professionals from all walks of life.
Stress clearing practitioners do not normally practice on the insane or mentally ill. Clients are expected to receive stress clearing on their own determination. Receiving stress clearing is similar in some ways to doing a dietary body cleanse in order to remove the toxins that almost inevitably accumulate in the body after a lifetime of living in a modern, chemical-laden environment. stress clearing is as much about rejuvenation of the mind as a body cleanse is about rejuvenation of the body. In fact, stress clearing could properly be alternately named emotional cleansing.
Because no drug or hypnosis is ever used, receiving stress clearing is as safe as going to any counselor who treats the client with dignity and respect.
Suppose you were at a workplace and an argument erupted between you and a co-worker (or boss or underling) that caused rancor between you and him. This "bad blood" situation, if left unhandled, could keep cropping up again and again, as it could with any relationship - whether business or personal. Eventually the work situation could become almost unbearable and productivity and job status could eventually suffer. In the case where the bad feelings are toward one's clients, that could pose a potentially serious threat to one's earning power.
Many people complain about their work place. A lot of the dissatisfaction with work has to do with other people one associates with there. Stress clearing applied to workplace situations can make going to work a far more desirable experience by neutralizing the traumas and/or mini-traumas one has accumulated in that environment, and possibly earlier environments under similar circumstances.
Whether it's clashes with the spouse, the children, or other family members, these mini-traumas tend to have a cumulative effect on relationships. They tend to happen over and over again in basically the same patterns. Behind these mini-traumas could also be major traumas of a similar quality in the past or in childhood, which set the stage for later patterns of reactive behavior. In any case, when they are cleaned up, one's control over present situations tends to increase to the degree that one's mental/emotional slate has been cleaned.
Bad feelings don't have to accumulate to a boiling point. And relationships can start anew, even if they appear irreparable at the time. Families don't have to live in a constant state of submerged feelings of resentment, anger, fear, or other undesirable conditions. One need never again consider one's relationships to be "damaged goods" simply on the basis of past events. If one is to live life, why not live it to the fullest?
Stress clearing does not depend on any belief systems, superstitions, hypnosis, drugs, or any other unproven or uncertain methods. Stress clearing has been used by clearing practitioners for many years. It is dependable, effective, and time tested.
Stress clearing at this time costs only $1.00 U.S. per minute. The client is charged only for the time between the actual start of the session and the end of it. "Chat time" is not included with the charge.
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The following is a sampling of unsolicited letters sent along with payments:
(Only sections of a personal nature were deleted. They were otherwise not edited.)
Things are different, for one thing, my stomach is not in a knot. I'm intrigued. Thank you much. -- S.S. (licensed psychotherapist, N.Y. City)
Thank you for finding time for me. I appreciate your talents and help. -- M.A. (San Francisco, Ca.)
I could see some improvement in the "out of sorts" feeling in A.M. Thanks very much. -- Dr. N.H. (Orlando, Fl.) (Sent along with payment the following day, after having stated at session end that he would take me up on my offer of no payment if no results.)
After our session I had a long talk with the person who referred me... He's always asking "is it permanent" about any clearing or transformational processes. I have my own ideas about that and would like to chat with you about it sometime. Thanks again for the session - it was great. -- N.T. (licensed psychotherapist, Northern Ca.)
As ever, many thanks for all you do! -- J.E. (Albuquerque, N.M.)
Many thanks for a GREAT 1st session. Looking forward to lots more over the months ahead. And who knows, maybe we will meet? you in Australia or me in Florida. Best wishes, -- D.H. (Melbourne, Australia)
I am really impressed. It's like it's available as an option, with enough space to choose the most resourceful option. It's not an inevitable reaction. Best wishes, -- M.F. (Illinois)(The complaint prior to session was the chronic feeling of "impatience", and was handled on an advanced level)
[message of a personal nature] P.S. I feel great. -- T.H. (N.Y.City)
Thanks again for your unending conscientiousness, patience and endurance. The objectives we did recently were very helpful. -- J.W. (Cleveland Ohio)
Thank you so much for your teachings and healthy guidance. -- C.G. (St. Augustine, Fl.)
Thank you so very much! I have not had a panic attack in 6 mos. since we had our session. I suffered daily after the Northridge earthquake and now, thanks to you and your treatment I am free of the fears. Gratefully, -- C. L. (Thousand Oaks, Ca.)
Thank you for your patience with payment. And especially thank you for the part you played in helping me get well. -- D.M. (Lowell, Massachusetts)